You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family
March 3rd 2008 09:31
Does anybody know why relatives are so difficult to get along with it? My definition of a family is a group of strangers who happen to share the same surname or an affiliation through marriage or birth…and that’s basically it. Nothing more, nothing less. Now I am sincere when I say that I want for more than this. I am an only child and I’ve always yearned for a brother or sister. I remember as a child that I would get so bored and I would never have anyone at my disposal to share that boredom with. At least when you’ve got siblings you can be bored together but when you’re an only child its your problem and no one else’s.
So I don’t see any of my family, besides my mum and dad. I’ve got a couple of aunties, uncles and cousins in the same country as me but most of the time they might as well not be. My cousin got married recently and I wasn’t invited to his wedding. Can you believe it? And it gets worse considering I got married a few months before him and invited him to my wedding and he didn’t even have the courtesy to return the RSVP card to say “thanks but no thanks”. Its not like it would have been hard; I included the RSVP card and the return envelope (addressed to me) with the invite. All he had to do was put a stamp on it and post it (perhaps paying the 50 cents for the stamp was the issue?) So I hope he had a lovely wedding and that they’ll be very happy together…blah, blah, blah, whatever. I hate that I care about people and it feels like they don’t give a toss about me. If he’d invited me to his wedding I would have jumped on the first plane I could find to share that special occasion and I guess that’s what hurts the most; knowing I’d do that for him but he wouldn’t do that for me.
So there are countless more tales I could tell of the rejection I’ve faced from my relatives, but hey, I don’t want you to think I’m just a whining b*tch so I won’t say anymore. Moral of the story is that life is what you make it; this is my life and I need to live it. If my relatives don’t want to be a part of it then I’ll just have to deal with it. Right?
Family Photo, SuziJane, Flickr
So I don’t see any of my family, besides my mum and dad. I’ve got a couple of aunties, uncles and cousins in the same country as me but most of the time they might as well not be. My cousin got married recently and I wasn’t invited to his wedding. Can you believe it? And it gets worse considering I got married a few months before him and invited him to my wedding and he didn’t even have the courtesy to return the RSVP card to say “thanks but no thanks”. Its not like it would have been hard; I included the RSVP card and the return envelope (addressed to me) with the invite. All he had to do was put a stamp on it and post it (perhaps paying the 50 cents for the stamp was the issue?) So I hope he had a lovely wedding and that they’ll be very happy together…blah, blah, blah, whatever. I hate that I care about people and it feels like they don’t give a toss about me. If he’d invited me to his wedding I would have jumped on the first plane I could find to share that special occasion and I guess that’s what hurts the most; knowing I’d do that for him but he wouldn’t do that for me.
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Comment by KylieW
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I, thankfully, am very close to my family. My sister and I live together in the house we bought together (really, we're not like Patty and Selma from the Simpsons, I assure you!). We're both really close to my dad as well (my mum died 12 years ago). I can't imagine not being close to my family. 2 years ago, my immediate family plus my grandparents and my mum's sister's family (aunt, uncle and 2 kids) all went on a cruise together. There were 11 of us ranging in age from 16 to 82. We had THE BEST time together. I rate that as one of my all-time favourite holidays, just because it was so nice and different to all go away together.
But for every person I know who gets along really well with their family, I know 2 others who have serious difficulty with them. Just luck of the draw really.
Comment by Babyjrulz
With regards to my cousin, we were once pretty close, but as KylieW said, he's probably just lazy. I think he's made a life with his new wife and her family so I don't rate very highly in the scheme of things for him anymore. But the way I see it is that it's his loss. Stay tuned as I have an urge to write a story about my sister-in-law; now she's a piece of work!